Monday, December 9, 2013

How To Get The Most Out Of Online Dating

 The dating game is fun. You’ll meet loads of new people and try all kinds of new adventures. You can’t expect that all your dates will be good ones, but at least these disasters will give your friends a laugh. You’re more likely to meet suitable people with a respectable site like Global Personals, so if you current site is not working out, it’s worth giving give them a try.

Here are some tips to help you get the most out of online dating.

1. You need to keep at it. Just like dating the people you meet at work or at the gym, you’re not necessarily going to meet Mr or Mrs Right on the first attempt. Don’t lose heart. Online dating is popular for a reason – it works. Keep on looking, new people sign up every day. In fact, your future partner could be signing up to a great site such as Global Personals right now.

2. Play safe. You should never give out personal details online. Wait until you have met in real life before giving up your address or mobile number. Use your chosen site’s safety features by sticking with the messaging service. Once you are comfortable and happy that your chosen date is not weird in any way, then you can give up your details. But not before!

3. When meeting in the flesh make sure it’s somewhere public, and that a friend knows where you are. You’ve probably heard this many times before but it is sensible advice. Don’t isolate yourself with someone you don’t know, and certainly don’t invite them to your house.

4. Check your account regularly. People send messages all the time and many others are signing up. You don’t want to miss out because you weren’t paying attention!

5. Be flexible with your search criteria. If you put specifics like ‘brown hair, 5’ 10”, no children, and must love cats within 1 mile of your postcode, then you are really limiting your options! Besides which, dating should be about meeting many people and having a great time. Widen your search, think about the age range, and look older (or younger!) than you currently are.

6. On the flip side, be realistic with your criteria, especially your search radius. Whilst a one mile search radius won’t be enough, you won’t want to travel fifty miles each time you meet up either.

7. Don’t decide on a person simply by looking at their picture, because many attractive people do not photograph well! Put more faith in your shared opinions, sense of humour and interests. They have to be attractive to you of course, but if you are wavering on a ‘not sure if I like the look of him’ then stop wavering and meet up. Attractiveness is sometimes more about hormones, scents and the ‘wow’ factor, and you won’t get that over an internet connection.

Above all, make sure you enjoy yourself, and don’t get too fixated on finding Mr or Mrs Right. Be laid back, have fun, follow the tips above, and it will all come together in the end.

How To Get Back Into The Dating Game

Many people are finding these days that they are pitched back into the dating game when a marriage or long term relationship has ended. It can be quite disconcerting to suddenly realise that you are single! When you feel ready to date again, then you can meet new people in many different ways. The trick is to get yourself out there, don't be shy. A smile and a friendly remark can open up new friendships and enrich your life. Just be brave! Here are some suggestions to get you going.

1. Online Dating. A decade ago, online dating was not particularly popular, viewed by the majority of people as weird and perhaps a bit desperate. Now, everyone is doing it! You probably know couples who met online. If you ask about, you’ll discover people are trying it, and may have some suggestions to help you along. There are many dating sites out there, but if you are serious about meeting someone decent, then use a high quality site such as Global Personals. Be mindful of your safety too, and when you meet with someone, make sure it’s in a busy public place.

2. Ask your friends to set you up. They know you well, and are quite likely to pick someone who suits. They may even be better at it than you are! Just make sure you choose someone sensible, not just Dave from the pub that you don’t know very well.

3. A single person should never turn down an invite. Even if you are tired and don’t fancy it – make sure you go. You never know who will be there; at the very least it will prevent you being lonely and bored at home. Exciting things happen at unexpected times!

4. If you have children, take them to activities such as soft play, or playgrounds and parks if the weather is good. Saturday morning is a great time to meet single dads! When you pick your kids up from school, chat to other parents in the queue. Just be friendly, not over-bearing and before you know it, you’ve made another friend – who in turn may set you up with a singleton that they know.

5. Trying something new always opens up new avenues. There are lots of courses and activities you can take part in. Look online for adult learning courses. If you’ve always fancied learning how to make pasta, then now is the time! If your computer skills are rusty, then sign up for classes. If your workplace runs a sports and social club, then start taking part. You might not fancy any of your colleagues, but they might know someone who will suit you.

Getting back into the dating game is all about building new connections. Be pro-active, get online, try Global Personals, or take up a hobby that interests you, just keep busy and jump in. Above all, keep smiling and you’ll soon be back into the swing of it.

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Quick and Convenient Way to Have Loans

Easy Online Payday LoanIf you run an online business you may experience some unexpected expenses. Don’t worry how to pay it when you do not have enough credit. Payday loans could be the best choice to help you overcome such problems.

Get your money as soon as possible without having knotty steps. Easy online payday loans offer you a quick process regardless where you are. Some credits types are also provided for your convenient. Besides, there will not be any outrageous overdraft fees as banks do. All you need to do is connecting you mobile device to the Internet and experiencing the shortcut done by millions of people.

Monday, April 15, 2013

3 Ways to Capture His Heart

As this girl grows up, she dreams of a magnificent wedding to be followed by a reception that will be so huge and extravagant, everybody will want to be invited. Or, she could be dreaming of a smaller wedding and reception in a quiet place that makes the ceremony more personal and intimate. In either way, her next dream is all about a happy family life and even if she knows that happily ever after does not always happen, she dreams that hers would go along that path. The funny thing about dreams is that these are all good and no one talks or discusses about the travels and hardships by which these can be achieved.

3 Ways to Capture His Heart: The Real World

There are more women than men in the world today at a ratio of 7:4 and waiting for a man is not an option unless she wants to wait and wait, and later on become an old maid. Women often wonder how a woman who isn't that beautiful seems to attract men like a flower to a bee and how she is able to Capture His Heart with any man she chooses. What is her secret, they will ask themselves. They may speak among themselves as they tell each other that the woman is not even more beautiful than they are, but inside them they are all burning with envy at how she is doing it.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Where Can I Find Love?

Everyone wants to find someone to love. Someone special who they can share their life with. Someone they can care about and who will care about them in return. Finding that special person can take time and patience. In the end, the wait will be well worth it for you.

If you are wondering how to find someone who you can love and spend your life with, then the first thing you need to do is to be patient. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is being desperate, not thinking clearly, and jumping into something that can be harmful to you both mentally and physically. Take your time, don't rush anything, and eventually you will find someone who makes you happy in life.

You need to get to know yourself, and think about what you're looking for in a potential soul mate. Think about what qualities and morals you're looking for in someone. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, you may want to consider where you're looking. Make sure you are putting yourself in the right kind of environment. Being active in a church and taking college courses, are just a couple of the more popular places to find someone.

Make sure you're ready to be in a relationship. Do you need to get yourself together first both mentally and physically? If you don't feel ready because of any personal issues that may be happening with you, then that's okay. Take your time, and get your issues resolved before bringing someone into your life. You need to be happy with yourself and life. Treat yourself with respect before anyone else can treat you the way you want to be treated.

Sunday, April 7, 2013

How Loving Couples Behave

Norman and Norma Burmah, at 102 and 99, have the longest marriage-82 years-on record in the United States. Imagine if they were unhappily married. What a long and dismal sentence that would be. While I don't know how happily married they are, I do know what they and others do when they are in a happy relationship. Certain behavioral patterns are shared by happy couples, whether recently united or going for the longevity record.


For one thing, they like each other. They genuinely get along without having to strain, suppress or otherwise fake it. They can be themselves in each other's company without having to put on any pretense whatsoever. They can act naturally and their partners like them just as they are. They're friends.

Really good friends enjoy each other's company, and would rather be with their partner than anyone else in the world. They share confidences, intimacies and daily stories that genuinely interest their partner. There's that word "genuine" again.


Being able to laugh together is like glue-it binds you to the person you share the laugh with, whether hilarious or whimsical. It's especially great if at least one partner has the capability to find humor or irony or something amusing when couples are in the midst of a disagreement. I have a friend whose husband "jollies" her out of being mad at him. She says he finds a way of turning their argument on its end so she sees it in a different light. And she has the capability of appreciating it. A good laugh is good medicine, in good times and bad.They can act naturally and their partners like them just as they are.

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Marriage Life Following Cheating And Working It Out With One Another

There were times when you considered yourself and your significant other as teammates. A good solid unified group working together. When it was good you felt that the two of you could overcome any and all obstacles. Your self-confidence would grow after removing whatever barrier not to mention the love for your significant other only got stronger.

The affair shattered all of that. You are very suspect of everything your marriage partner says and on top of that your self-worth has taken a major hit. You start to doubt yourself about the most insignificant things. If you cannot find the right solution the self-worth diminishes even further. That is the type of harm infidelity in a relationship can do.

One of the foundations to rebuilding after cheating in a relationship is understanding how to recommit to one another. There are many ways to do this but listed below are a few which need to be tops on your list.

1. Write It Down

Just like a legal contract where you agree to do x in exchange for y, writing down your commitment on paper will help a great deal when you are restoring the marital relationship. Develop a mutually agreed upon proclamation then sign it with each mate bearing witness. Afterward put it in a place of prominence in your household. Also make a concerted effort to read it on a regular basis. Make sure to do this together whenever possible. Doing so has the potential to center your concentration while strengthening the level of determination.

Friday, March 22, 2013

Is Love A Relationship?

I have no idea what 'love' is, and I don't think I can ever get anywhere close to knowing it, for it's difficult to comprehend anything that means so many different things to so many different people. All that one can do is speculate about what it can possibly be.

When does an intense liking for something become capable of being described as 'love' is completely beyond me. How is 'love' different from an intense liking for someone combined with an addiction-like longing for the person? The nagging desire to have the person around all the time is considered 'love', and then comes a time when one doesn't want his or her 'love' around as much as before. The other party complains of neglect, the fights start and the lovers start liking each other less and less progressively. This kind of getting-used-to spoils the broth that love is. So, does love last only as long as the freshness lasts, after which one starts looking for something else to love? Is love just about the novelty?

Most of the lovers of 'love' would denounce such crass ideas about something as 'great' and 'divine' as 'love'. But in the real world that's precisely what happens and it's called 'love'. Yes, one can always say it's not 'love' or is not 'true love', in which case there have to be two kinds of 'love' -- 'true love' and 'worldly/untrue love'. Or, may be, 'divine love' and 'physical love' are the two kinds of distinct 'loves'. But that doesn't solve anything for to say that 'physical love' is different from 'divine love' might mean that there is nothing divine about physical love, in which case one might be implying that nothing reproductive is divine. So, how does divine sanction of marriages work? Marriages are considered God-endorsed by all such religions that believe in God. And if there is something divine about 'physical love', how can it be excluded from the category of 'divine love' or 'spiritual love' unless one wishes to say that 'spiritual love' refers to the love between the spirits presupposing that spirits are capable of such a thing.

Monday, March 11, 2013

Relationships: How to Create Rock-Solid Love - That Just Keeps Getting Better!

Know wherever you find yourself; it's not an accident that you are there. We all are creating it all, all of the time-our love life is no exception. And wherever you want to be regarding love, you can create it. The very best relationship you can imagine can be yours, once you become conscious in your creations. Here are some magical tips to skyrocket your love life, no matter where you find yourself on the "Love-O-Meter": YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP BUT IT COULD BE BETTER. So many find themselves in this place-you have a partner but you're not as happy in the partnership as you'd once dreamed. What to do? Do this:

Own your power. People in ongoing partnerships find it easy to fall into the "blame game". "So and so does thus and such... aren't they awful?" "Don't you feel sorry for me... " and "What can I do when I have a partner like mine?"

Well, the truth is, you are creating your partner. I know, he or she is creating it too-it's a paradox-both are true. But in order to change your relationship you must approach it as if you are the only one creating it.

Get your mad out. Ask yourself if you have any old, unresolved issues with your partner. If so, write them a letter expressing your hurt, anger, etc. When you are done with the letter, burn it.

In order to move into a positive future, you need to let go of the past. For good. Obviously if you need to talk with your partner about these issues, do so... but nine times out of ten the issues have been talked to death already. Time to let them go.

Get clear about what you want. I know you say you want a loving, giving, caring and intimate partnership. But I've seen plenty of couples that really want to argue. Plenty of others that only want to be right. Still others who want to control their mate.

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Love's Emotions

"Love is heavy and light, bright and dark, hot and cold, sick and healthy, asleep and awake - it's everything except what it is!" (Act 1, scene 1) William Shakespeare. Romeo and Juliet

Oh that William Shakespeare certainly had something going on. And then present day researchers have something to say about it!

Easy as it is to want to analyse Shakespeare's poems and sonnets or plays like Hamlet or Macbeth and cite the omnipotent "to be or not to be," "The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune," and "To-morrow, and to-morrow, and to-morrow."

Shakespeare revolutionized human emotion and conflict simply by his dramatics, words and passion he weaved into his works. He brought to us the "why do we crave love so much, even to the point that we would die for it?"

Refraining from refuting scholars who have studied the works of Shakespeare indelibly, let us hugely celebrate the high school principals and teachers who year after year bring this mysterious Literary King into a teen's mind and heart. They are deserving for making it part of a youth's coming of age while trying to spring forward a sneak peek at the understanding of the complexities of love and human emotions.

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Relationship Advice - Is Facebook Ruining Relationships?

Facebook is a phenomenal way of staying in touch with others. But for some, the convenience has turned into an obsession that is actually ruining their marriage. How can a social networking site create such turmoil in a relationship? Actually, there are several ways.

One problem is that individuals use it as a way to reconnect with past love interests. This is fine as long as the individual doesn't try to pick back up where they left off in the relationship. Using Facebook as a way to rekindle an old flame creates jealousy and envy for many. Husbands or wives do not want to think their spouse is communicating with old love interests and reminiscing about their time together.

Having a secret relationship is easy to conceal due to the way Facebook is set up. Having private messaging allows you to carry on a relationship with someone without your spouse knowing what is occurring. It is actually much more private than using a home phone, a cell phone or regular email.

Just remember to use discretion. A good rule of thumb is that if you are afraid to show your communications to your spouse or your love interest, then you are obviously doing something that you should be involved in.

Thursday, February 14, 2013

How You Could Successfully End A Relationship

Ever since the beginning of time people have been separating. When men and women began to write, one of the issues they wrote about, even way back, was couples splitting up. The writings probably have changed and indeed the times have changed but ending a romantic relationship never has gotten any less difficult. Folks still go through the identical emotions, the same misery, as well as the same pain.

When you find yourself putting an end to a partnership, you need to acknowledge the fact that it really is over. You may think it wise to totally forget about your ex, however, while you try to forget you happen to be actually remembering the past bond. All this accomplishes is you still thinking about all those upsetting memories which just triggers serious emotional discomfort.

As mentioned before a split is never simple. Emotionally, it can be one of the most difficult things you will face in your lifetime. You are all aware of the phrase that "Time Heals All Wounds", and you probably do not want to even listen to that outdated expression, but in fact it's correct. Try to keep this in mind as you little by little mend your psychological scars.

Ending a romance may be particularly difficult if you still have contact with your ex. It is often awkward, particularly if you two work together. Establish some guidelines such as keeping matters as platonic as you can. Whenever you do engage in a discussion keep it low key, don't talk about your previous bond.

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Five Attitudes That Helps You Get The Girl of Your Choice

Attitude 1: Get Exciting: Hot girls like guys who are exciting.To be exciting you have to be spontaneous. Play the unpredictable bad guy, and you have already set something in motion in her mind. Go around her, and make moves that she least expects. Make her laugh. Pick her up from the floor, toss her around, drag her, and do all sorts of things that make her feel less like a woman to be cared for and respected.

Result: She has lost her firm grip. She will be willing to bend to you because psychologically, she holds the belief that you have got a firm grip of her.

Attitude 2: Be Intimate: physical intimacy occurs when you are able to touch her and there is almost no barrier between the two of you. But girls need more than that. Get closer and spill some rotten beans about yourself, even before she asks. Set the mood, your voice pitch and control the atmosphere (e.g, by playing music, dimming the light, taking her to a quiet place, etc). Tell her your secrets, even if you have none, cook up something. Tell her a sob story.

Result: She needs to know you are strong, not because you have no sad story but because despite the challenges you've faced, you have decided to be the happy person. You have set the motion of trust in her. Now she realises you need to be loved, just like her.

Relationship Problems - Five Problems Ordinary Men Face That Exceptional Men Avoid

Nothing shameful about being an ordinary man. We all start out there. The problem with being an ordinary man is that it's a lot of work. You face the same Groundhog's Day problems over and over again. It's tough. And monotonous. And there's not a lot of perks.

In this article, I'll cover five of the top problems ordinary men face. If these sound familiar to you, you might be interested in learning more about becoming an exceptional man.

1. Ordinary men don't get enough attention. The ordinary man feels ignored by his woman much of the time. She spends a lot of time on her phone and on Facebook and then "lets" him spend time with her. But she doesn't show a lot of spark. She just assumes he'll be there. It's usually only when she's fighting with him that she fully engages with her man.

2. Ordinary men don't get enough affection. The ordinary man does a lot for his woman and feels like he doesn't get a lot back. The relationship feels unfair and unbalanced for him. He's always having to ask for his needs to get met. It's no position for a man to be in.

3. Ordinary men don't get enough sex. An ordinary man's woman is tired and stressed a lot. She never seems to be in the mood. And she seems to think that he is too sex-focused. She accuses him of using her for sex and only wanting her body. She may have caught him looking at porn and this only reinforced her view point, but the truth is he'd much rather have sex with her if she were willing.

4. Ordinary men are neck deep in drama. The only time anything gets interesting in the ordinary man's relationship is when he fights with his woman. And they seem to fight about everything. She has a very skewed idea of who he is and reads into everything he says or does. This leads to lots and lots of drama and lots and lots of work if he wants to address even the simplest issue that might come up. And he often just lets her win the fight just to keep the peace. He might justify this by saying: "You gotta pick your battles."

5. The ordinary man feels a lack of respect, trust and just basic softness from his woman. She acts like her Facebook friends are more interesting and funny than him. He finds her attention drifting when he talks to her about his plans. He sometimes feels like he's trying to prove himself to her. She sometimes acts like he is supposed to make her happy and that he's not doing his job so why should she do hers?

If any or all of these sound like you, you owe it to yourself to start planning a personal reinvention around what you want and deserve in your life and relationship. Which is just what I did.

If you want to find out more about how I went from ordinary to anything but and how it was the best thing I could have done for myself and for my woman. And if you want to get started right away learning the specific things you can do right now to start making changes in your relationship and life today.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

The Advantage of Burden Awareness

It's too easy to imagine that our lives are the only ones under stress. Yet the more stress we encounter the more likely it is that we will isolate ourselves to the island of our distress. Isolation, at least in this way, is like a warning siren that we are losing our emotional grip upon reality.

When we are isolated our burden is magnified. We think more and more on it. Indeed, even our subconscious thought space is filled by a focus on either how badly we are managing our burden or how unfair life is - that we must face such unrelenting stress.

In such a psychological place we barely think of other people.

But other people are just as prone as we are; perhaps even more so in many cases.


The idea of loving one another, as Christ commanded us in John 13:34, can be imagined, in the present context, as applicable to not adding to another's burden. We have no idea what others are dealing with. We cannot think the way they do. We cannot imagine life through their eyes. We don't even have their situation and all their background with which to advise us. As far as other people are concerned we are blind.

Monday, January 14, 2013

Relationships: Why Do Some People Sabotage Healthy Relationships?

To have a relationship that is healthy and functional is something that most people want in this world. Now, for some people this is reality and for others; this is often nothing more than a good idea and something that eludes them.

And while there are people who have fulfilling relationships and others who want them; there is also another dynamic that goes on. These are people who may develop a relationship with someone or meet another person who is appropriate and who treats them well, and yet the relationship doesn't last.

Conscious Intention

On the surface, one may have the need to be with another person that appreciates, respects and values who they are. However, although this is what is going on at a conscious level, there is a clear difference between what is actually happening in one's life.

One is aware of what they need, but this is having very little impact on one achieving that which they truly desire - a fulfilling relationship.