Tuesday, January 29, 2013

The Advantage of Burden Awareness

It's too easy to imagine that our lives are the only ones under stress. Yet the more stress we encounter the more likely it is that we will isolate ourselves to the island of our distress. Isolation, at least in this way, is like a warning siren that we are losing our emotional grip upon reality.

When we are isolated our burden is magnified. We think more and more on it. Indeed, even our subconscious thought space is filled by a focus on either how badly we are managing our burden or how unfair life is - that we must face such unrelenting stress.

In such a psychological place we barely think of other people.

But other people are just as prone as we are; perhaps even more so in many cases.


The idea of loving one another, as Christ commanded us in John 13:34, can be imagined, in the present context, as applicable to not adding to another's burden. We have no idea what others are dealing with. We cannot think the way they do. We cannot imagine life through their eyes. We don't even have their situation and all their background with which to advise us. As far as other people are concerned we are blind.

Monday, January 14, 2013

Relationships: Why Do Some People Sabotage Healthy Relationships?

To have a relationship that is healthy and functional is something that most people want in this world. Now, for some people this is reality and for others; this is often nothing more than a good idea and something that eludes them.

And while there are people who have fulfilling relationships and others who want them; there is also another dynamic that goes on. These are people who may develop a relationship with someone or meet another person who is appropriate and who treats them well, and yet the relationship doesn't last.

Conscious Intention

On the surface, one may have the need to be with another person that appreciates, respects and values who they are. However, although this is what is going on at a conscious level, there is a clear difference between what is actually happening in one's life.

One is aware of what they need, but this is having very little impact on one achieving that which they truly desire - a fulfilling relationship.